Patterns of abuse, conflict, and repression are based on inaccurate social messages that some people are better than others, in any way. Changing these patterns requires everyone to examine and recognise how they even unconsciously buy into these BOXED ideas and how these values harm others and themselves. Breaking hurtful ways of being requires learning how to think and behave differently, based on respect for oneself and for all other people.
Engender is focused on changing patterns of violence (including gender-based violence) and inequality in South African society and the necessary transformation from victimhood to agency. We are doing this through a combination of research into the root causes of these patterns, participating in international conferences and forums relating to these issues, and conducting local workshops that give individuals and service providers practical perspectives and tools that can used to break past patterns.